BEing in Nyanza

            This past week I donned my camp-counselor persona and ventured into a new part of Rwanda. Nyanza’s Camp BE (Boys Excelling) began on Sunday August 12^th, and continued on to Saturday. My experience was filled with games, teaching about gender roles and peer pressure, and lots of arts and crafts. Although I had a lot of fun, it’s a good thing that I never tried to become a teacher. Two days of it was enough, and sustaining my enthusiasm non-stop from 7AM to 10PM beyond those two days seems relatively impossible. But, it was so much fun. I try to think back on my camp experiences, like 15 years ago. How was the experience different? Well, I wasn’t learning about preventing HIV or gender roles, that’s for sure. I remember playing Mafia with around 50 kids on the shores of Lake Courd A’lene, Idaho, staying in large burlap tents, my dysfunctional attempts at arts and crafts, singing songs, playing games, staying up until 8:30 in the morning (that was a questionable camp theme – night owl camp; keep the kids up all night, and have them sleep all day).

 

            So I reflected on my camp experience and tried to bring out this supposed inner enthusiast and kid person. Surprisingly, I found it. As a group leader, I met with my boys every day and tried to play new games, hear about what they were learning, and make camp feel somewhat campy. I heard my Kinyarwanda getting better every day, and surprised myself with the ability to explain all these random games in Kinyarwanda without stumbling or confusing my audience. The games were even successful too! One of my favorites was “monkey, monkey, gorilla,” the now Rwandan version of “duck, duck, goose.”

             The boys were impressive though (for the most part, there’s only so much 14-18 year old boys can give before they have to start acting like goofy teenagers again, which was ok too). In my gender roles lesson (which I’m not too fond of teaching anyways) several boys asked questions like, “what if we see a girl who is being treated poorly, what do we do?” and “how can we work to make our lives and girl’s lives more equal?” and “how do we change?” During HIV awareness videos, my group told me how they would help protect themselves and others from HIV. I was concerned as a wave of “wows” echoed through the audience when a woman was telling a man off for assuming she’d have sex with him because he brought her gifts, but was surprised when the boys were impressed by the woman and valued her reaction to the man.

            The camp left me hopeful and proud of these boys, and more confident in the future of Rwanda. I compare these boys to Rwandan men I know, how creepy they can be, how they tend to profess their love for me (or any woman) before even asking our names, age, job, anything, before considering our wishes. I think about my male co-workers who have told me they would never carry a baby on their backs because people will laugh at them, and how they think it’s a man’s right to decide when his wife will have sex with him. I see these men, who I respect, yet also loathe at times for their sexist behavior, and superior mentality towards the opposite gender, then I think about these young boys, how much potential they have, and who they may or may not become, and it’s inspiring.

 

            As HIV prevention videos played from a projector in Kinyarwanda, I gazed through the darkness at all these young boys, intermixed with a Peace Corps Volunteer here and there. Less than 11 months left in my service in Rwanda, and I was shocked, in the darkness, to realize that this has become so normal to me. I know I’ve ranted a bit about the differences between here and there, home and my new home, even toilets in Rwanda and toilets in America; but at this moment, I started thinking about how, when I do go home, no one else will have spent the last two years of their life sitting amongst Rwandans. Consciously, I know this, but how separate, or different our lives have been when I do make it home, is daunting and exciting all the same. The days of commiserating about class schedules and professors are beyond my scope. I can’t walk up to my best friend and say, you remember those Rwandan children who would run up and hug you every time they saw you, screaming “Komera, Komera” (be strong) until you walked out of their line of vision again.

            It is possible, I’m sure, that this is simply a function of getting older, when friends begin to live lives that take so many varying paths, in so many varying directions, one could stand at the intersection forever just trying to make an educated decision about which path they’re supposed to take, follow, or create. So, as much as my life has changed, I realize that everyone else’s has too in the 16 months since I boarded my first plane towards this adventure. I realize that so much has changed, yet so much will be the same, and at times I feel like there is so little about me that remains unchanged, and other times I defiantly claim that I am exactly the same as I once was. It is a confusing dichotomy and ultimately easier to put at the back of my mind as I venture out of my front door, dreams of Kilimanjaro on my mind, and head off along another Rwandan dirt road into the depths of my community.

            From pondering the future of Rwanda, and my own future, to rushing back to a wedding in my village, my week ended in a fluster of celebration. People no longer stare (as much) when I enter into a church, dressed in my igitenge best, and begin snapping pictures per request of the bride. Much to many different lore, weddings are supposed to be sad for the bride in Rwanda. She is supposed to be sad that she is leaving her family. This is extra strange when the couple has already been married for five years and have a daughter together. I can assume they got married because she got pregnant, but apparently never actually had the wedding ceremony. A great, more modern, Rwandan couple, I have really enjoyed visiting them over my time here. I would watch her as she drinks an Amstel beer and frowns as I decline her offer to join her in drinking, yet again. She’s also the only woman who asks me every other week if she could use my nail polish, nail polish being forbidden in some religions here.

            Saturday, she dresses in one of the biggest wedding dresses I’ve seen, and definitely the most form-fitting, and of course, as white as could be. Their daughter Kenny, is also dressed in a white dress that she flings about her constantly, I assume enjoying the swishing sound that it makes. I enter the church about an hour late due to impossibly full busses and sneak up by the pulpit to snap some pictures. The bride sees me and a big grin moves across her face. The rest of the wedding seems to follow this trend. She struggles to maintain the tradition of sadness at leaving her family, yet huge smiles momentarily crease her face throughout the ceremony and reception. This feels like one of the most light-hearted weddings I’ve been to in Rwanda thus far. We all laugh as she tries to pick up to groom and carry him in her arms, but he is surprisingly one of the biggest (both tall and weight-wise) that I’ve encountered in this culture. The tradition of holding the glass while the other one drinks is acted out, as a box of wine on a silver platter is carried to the couple. The box even has a spout on it for ease of pouring.

            The reception takes place on the top of the hill by the entrance to Nyungwe. A procession of wedding-goers makes the two kilometer trek in their fancy clothes, and we sit overlooking the forest. They feed us, although all of our cheap plastic forks break, and the well-dressed women struggle with the task of gracefully eating their food. I even get a piece of the small wedding cake. We give our gifts to the couple, which thanks to the bus delay I was able to buy them a basket, although, what do you give a couple who’ve already been together for five years. I walk up, and greet the bride, handing her my gift. We do the traditional hug, touching our cheeks together, left side, then right, then left again, and her smile is huge. Then I move to the husband who happily greets me, smiling and saying, “Munezero!” We repeat the traditional hug. Then the health center presents a gift, and we are all called out in a line to present it. I know nothing about this because I have been gone for a week, but I join them all the same. Not having any clue what is going on has become such a common and accepted part of my life; I learn to go with the flow.

            I snap some more pictures, then the bride and groom gracefully dance their way out of the reception to the cars that take them to the after party. I retire to my home before this though, and listen as the music from the party travels through my front door into all hours of the night. Standing in my doorway, I can look down the hill and across the road to their house, watching at 11PM the people singing and dancing, and knowing that box of wine and probably many others, and cases of Primus and Mutzig beer have been consumed amongst the celebrators. Asking my titulaire the next day, he says they finally came home around 1AM. People always ask me how American weddings compare to Rwandan weddings, and I always say that they are pretty similar, but shorter. I claim that we Americans tend to be impatient and wouldn’t want, or maybe wouldn’t have the energy, to sit at a wedding for up to 13 hours. Maybe I’m wrong though. My wedding knowledge is almost solely based on Rwandan experience at this point.

            Thus is another event filled week in the life of me. My first batch of pickles turned out good, all of them eaten already. I also made a coffee cake the other night. I wonder though if my newfound cooking skills end at the Peace Corps oven, and about how well they will transfer over to a westernized kitchen, temperature control, specialized bake ware, all of those things. I guess we will see. Otherwise my life speeds on towards its Rwandan conclusion. My nightly dreams are now dedicated mostly to my pending Kilimanjaro trip. They also include post-hike resting on Zanzibar’s beaches, gazing out at the other side of the Indian Ocean, knowing that my toes touched it’s waters off the beaches of Indonesia four years ago.  I dream of walking up a mountainside, gazing out at the world, seeing snow, sleeping exhaustedly at night, and sleeping well without even the malicious efforts of mefloquin able to interrupt my slumber. I dream of seeing my dad and of Obama bags hung on the wall.

            In case you couldn’t tell where my mind has been as of late, my dad comes in a little over three months. It doesn’t feel like my mom was here that long ago though, and I miss her so much already. Time is going so fast, and although it’s stressful and sad, it’s exciting too. I am sure a piece of me and my heart will forever be stuck in the East African jungle, with my host family, running from the baboons, eating fresh avocado and mango, but I also miss the comforts of my American home so very much. My family, my friends, driving a car, the next adventure, although I still don’t know what that will be. But the downhill slope is getting steeper and everything is moving faster, and soon enough I’ll be somewhere else, doing something new, paying my students loans, and other bills, OY! I can’t believe it. You should all probably start gearing up for the words, “This one time in Rwanda” pouring out of my mouth incessantly, because it’s bound to happen. But before then, I will continue to strive for what my BE boys wrote on their group flag (without any prompting from me), “With all sides of the earth, with unity and peace, we will have a brighter future.”

The first steps down the hill...

            The last few weeks have been busy and somewhat hectic in spite of my barely leaving my village. The fourth of July kicked off the month with barbecued summer sausage hot dogs, and real Heinz ketchup, and the month has closed with a celebration at an Ethiopian restaurant to say goodbye to one of our Peace Corps bosses. The in between was mellow yet immensely productive. The most exciting news, at least in my eyes, is that the first draft of my grant proposal to do an animal husbandry project has been submitted. Much to my norm, I wait impatiently to move forward and to receive feedback, but if PC has taught me anything, it’s “ihangane” or that I must be patient. I’m trying. My co-host of camps GLOW and BE in the Nyamagabe District, and myself, have been busting away the plans for this next year and to get the necessary pieces submitted as well. 

            Needless to say, I have lived in a productive world this last month. But July hasn’t only been sitting in front of my computer, crunching numbers yet again for my project budget. Lots of other Peace Corps volunteers made it out to visit us in our village on the edge of the forest. It seems to have become a fun habit, at least for myself, that when guests come, we do dinner at my site-mate’s house. We, and by “we” I mostly mean Nick, has made some incredible food, and it’s a really nice reprieve from the norm, although I do love my veggie soup diet. I’ve learned how to cook in Peace Corps, in a place where everything doesn’t come pre-made in jars or boxes. Although I can say I do slightly miss the frozen food aisle at the grocery store, fish sticks, frozen desserts, waffles…

            But my Grandma should be proud. I still remember the sound of her voice when I said I didn’t know how to make biscuits from scratch while in college. Just the other day though, I made a carrot bread, which was amazing… so, as they say in Rwanda… “slowly by slowly.” Sometime in the near future, my site mate is going to teach me how to make pickles too! PC service is about to get a whole lot easier!

            Continuing with the food theme, we had a dinner celebration to say goodbye to Gordie, our DPT (or some acronym). He was the second in command for PC Rwanda. Health 3, my training class, ten of the thirteen of us, took Gordie out to Ethiopian food to say goodbye, and thank you. A volunteer in Zaire, back when the Democratic Republic of Congo was Zaire, Gordie worked on fish farming, and extended his service there for at least four years. For many in my group he was our go-to person. We sought him out for advice on projects, different resources and general life in the PC. When I was freaking out about a potential site change, Gordie was the one who helped me to calm down, and see that it’s not the end of the world. Needless to say, he’s really going to be missed here.

            PC has rules about the length of time any one person can work for the organization. After which they have to take a break equal in time to that which they were employed. So if you worked for PC for five years, you’d then have to take a five year break before returning. The rule makes a lot of sense, but it’s really unfortunate when we’re forced to lose such a great asset to the organization… that’s not to say there aren’t a lot of other really amazing people to do the job out there. So we said goodbye with dinner and stories of our favorite Gordie memories, and of course many thanks too.

            In other news… my health center decided to do a separate genocide commemoration event this week. On Tuesday, we loaded into a squeeze bus and headed to Murambi Genocide Memorial. This was my third trip there, and yet still had a different dynamic, and it conjured varying emotions. The first time I went was over a year ago with my PC training class. Feelingly right off the plane, we were brought to this insanely emotional place with people we really didn’t know. It was uncomfortable, confusing and scary. I returned this May with my mother, which again had a different feel. The major differences that time were that our guide spoke English, so I understood what was going on, the history and the circumstances. They had also finished the museum, so we could walk through and learn, in English, in detail about the events of the memorial.

            Finally, this time… the car dropped us off at the main road and my 20 coworkers and I walked the three kilometers to the memorial. In front of us was a purple banner stating who we are and what we were doing there. The health center of Kitabi remembering the genocide… never again. The “never again” is the tagline, so to speak, of Rwanda’s genocide commemoration. Each consecutive year has a separate theme too, this year’s being focused on the future. Anyways, we walked the dirt road, banner carried in front of us, moving aside for cars and motos. Arriving at the school grounds, we silently walked up the gravel entryway, holding our bouquets of flowers wrapped in purple ribbon. We start the tour at the mass graves, observing a moment of silence, then laying our bouquets upon the graves that hold approximately 18,000 people.

            Next we are taken to the classrooms where around 200 bodies preserved in lime are on display. Just like with my mom’s visit, I walk along the outside of the building. I don’t want to see them again. Out of the corner of my eye, I occasionally see a glimpse of the victim’s twisted bodies, or a preserved face in agony, and I struggle to fight back tears behind my oversized sunglasses. The key difference on this visit to Murambi, was the accompaniment of Rwandans. Some were crying and also refusing to enter the rooms. Stupidly, I forgot that I was enlisted to carry a roll of toilet paper in my tote bag, for this purpose and finally realize to pull it out for people after the tour was over. I keep my focus on the rolling hillsides in the distance, but every now and then the smell of lime wafts over me and chokes me. I’m vaguely certain that every time I encounter this smell in the future, the images of these people will pass through my mind.

            The only other time I really recall the smell of lime however is at the Jackson family’s ranch in Oregon. They keep lime in the outhouse to keep animals and insects away, or subdue the smell, I’m not too sure. I think about this as I gaze over the Rwandan hillsides, about the face of my best friend hiking through the hills on her family’s property, about such a beautiful place’s memory being triggered by this smell, and how it is now shadowed by the image of hundreds of genocide victims. I watch my co-workers as we walk through the museum, some not removing their sunglasses until we part ways in the evening. I watch them listen to the guide, who I’ve tuned out as she is speaking Kinyarwanda, and I’ve had this tour enough times before. I sit on the benches watching, outside of the crowd, reminded that as much as I try, I can never be completely integrated into this culture. These are things, memories, history that I can view from my outside perspective, yet not comprehend.

            This was the first time I really experienced my co-workers mourning the 1994 genocide. Most of the talks that took place during genocide commemoration week in April were attended by other villagers. I only saw a co-worker there once or twice. It was an interesting experience to attend this memorial with Rwandans, and Rwandans that I have relationships with, that are my friends. Afterwards, we returned to the health center and had fantas and brochettes (meat on a stick). My titulaire turns to me and says, “Munezero…. amakuru?” I respond with the typical, “I am fine, and you?” He replies that he doesn’t know. I make a joke about the large beer in front of him and ask “are you drunk already?” My co-workers laugh, and then another turns to me. “We cannot be ok today, because of where we were,” he says to me, “but, we are moving forward.”

            With 11 months to go in my service as a PCV in Rwanda, every time I say I do not know something, or do not understand, I am met with, “But you must, you are Rwandan now.” I have inside jokes with my Rwandan friends and family. I even look at other white people or foreigners with a tinge of judgment and elitism. “How could they wear that, don’t they know it’s culturally inappropriate?” “Is that person seriously stopping on the side of the road to take pictures of Rwandan children out of their car window?” “How come they don’t know the language?” I find myself lecturing Rwandan men on their poor behavior because they think they can get away with things; that I do not know any better. But I do, I have learned.

 I think about life back in the states, about a medium rare steak, being able to have a beer at a bar wherever I want, carpeting, hot showers, bug-free beds, shorts that show my knees, swimming without the fear of potentially horrible diseases, going out at night, driving. I also think about the things I’ve forgotten… what would a US American’s response be to a random stranger sitting on their lap in a sardine packed car? It’s not normal for two straight men to hold hands walking down the street? What are personal space boundaries? What is considered a personal question? What is it like not to be stared at constantly? What is it like to not be recognizable to everyone and have people yell out my name in greeting as I walk down the street? What is it like to not be asked why I do not have a husband, I am after all, already 24 years old.

I have had so much time, the last fifteen months to analyze who I am, who I am becoming, and who I want to be. I’ve thought about where my life will go after Peace Corps, and what I want to be when I eventually grow up. But it’s interesting as well to look at my idea of “normalcy” and how that has changed with this experience. Although I am sure I will readjust quite quickly when I do make it home in almost exactly a year. But it’s really strange to think about how truly different life is in the USA compared to Rwanda. It’s amazing how we are able to adjust and adapt to our surroundings. A year ago, I struggled with balancing myself and this culture, and now I wonder if I will not struggle with that same thing in a year’s time, when I return state side. Time has gone so quickly, and so much has happened in the time that I’ve been here. I like to joke with my Rwandan friends that I am not really Rwandan, yet I’m not really American anymore. I feel somewhere in between. Maybe I’m finally working towards becoming a citizen of the world.

             A year ago today, my beautiful niece (who I still have never met) was born. Her second birthday seems so far away, yet that is when I will finally be coming home to the states. Her second birthday feels potentially a decade away, but the year I have left here as a PCV in Rwanda, feels like it will be finished  tomorrow. Soon enough I will probably be enduring culture shock yet again, simply sitting on my family’s living room couch. I foresee myself standing next to the fireplace switch and simply flicking it on and off in amazement, or finding things to microwave just for the sake of heating things up instantly, or staring indefinitely at the frozen food section of the grocery store.  But before that time, I will hopefully have reached the summit of the highest peak in Africa, and traveled to more African countries, and finished an animal husbandry project to help malnourished children, and had at least four more girls and boys empowerment camps here in Rwanda. Wherever this adventure, and the ones to follow take me… tuzareba… we shall see!

Pictures: 1. Mushrooms being grown at my health center 2. Health 3 and Gordie at his goodbye dinner 3. Justin and Callixte sitting on the water tower by my hosue 4. My coworkers and I at Murambi

MSC, PEPFAR and some PST!

            The past two weeks were spent rambling about the Rwandan countryside, from training to training. It all started back on the banks of Lake Kivu at Centre Bethany for MSC, or in non-Peace Corps lingo, our mid-service conference, which happens around the time of a volunteer’s one year in service mark.  Nine months have gone by since we were last here at IST, and we have roughly nine months to go before our COS conference (or close of service conference). MSC went so well. Some super awesome volunteers from my group worked really hard with Peace Corps staff to make the conference a success and as beneficial as possible for the 13 of us remaining, as we enter our last year of service. We all talked about our projects, life thus far in Rwanda, ways to improve for ourselves and future groups of health volunteers.

So we conferenced, hung by the lake, and ate way too much food. The last day of MSC, a group of us, and Gordie (the director of programming and training for PC Rwanda) took a boat out to Napoleon Island, also known as the bat island. We started following the trail along the shore of the island, into a slightly wooded area. As we continued a sort of chirping sound continued to grow and swell amongst the trees. Our boat guide had disappeared into the woods and we heard banging and whooping noises. All of a sudden hundreds of bats began streaming out of the trees and circling overhead. Soon the bats grew to thousands and the sky was seemingly more black than it was blue. They circled above us, annoyed at the sounds that forced them from their fruity binging. The chirping continued as the bats swirled above us for what seemed like at least ten minutes. Finally they resettled themselves and we continued our way around the island, a little shocked and a lot awed by the sight. It was truly amazing.

The island was beautiful and diverse. We emerged from the forest onto an open yellow-grassy hillside, very reminiscent of my Dad’s property on the Middle Fork of the John Day River.  Water lapped the banks in little coves wrapped in scraggly tree branches and sunlight making the water bright blues and greens. Finally we reached a point sticking out into the lake, with a wide view of other islands drifting off towards Congo, and even back in the direction of the shores of our Rwandan home. We rode the boat back, and just like IST nine months before, I felt so at home riding the crests of the waves, being back on the water. Even the simple act of listening to the lake, the movement of the water, makes me feel like I am sitting on a raft on the Grand Ronde River, or alongside the Pacific Ocean, or next to the John Day. It feels like home, and reminds me, ironically, of all the places I feel most grounded.

So MSC was a success. This was followed by PEPFAR….. ugh! I have to say I do appreciate all the work done by Peace Corps staff to put PEPFAR together, but it was a relatively tortuous three days following MSC. We had members of our health centers, or other places of employment come and participate in the training about HIV/AIDS. Unfortunately the presenters were awful though! Some other volunteers may be more forgiving than I, chalking some of the negatives up to a language barrier, but I am not I guess. I literally struggled with restraining myself from leaping across the table and strangling one presenter who actually said, “we must protect the soldiers from the prostitutes, because the prostitutes know when the soldiers get paid and they will target them.” Granted this was very much a final straw with this guy for me, but it was quite infuriating.

On top of the presenters and the lack of what I would consider valued information, the conference was coupled with very bad behavior on my counterpart, or co-workers, side of things. He was actually quite embarrassing to me. He was the only person who would cut in front of everyone for food, for the bus, anything. He made plans to skip out of the conference to visit the Pentecostal church repeatedly, after PC had paid for him to come.  He also made rude judgmental comments about other PCVs, the presenters, and the conference. I was embarrassed by him, especially because he was one of my favorite people that I work with, and I thought he was a patient, thoughtful, and non-judgmental individual, qualities that I really admired in him. But I guess my expectations got the better of me, and I definitely learned a lesson, but it was a disappointing one to learn.

So skipping past the rest of PEPFAR because it simply was what it was and there is no sense dwelling on it via blog, I spent three days in Kigali relaxing and eating good food. My initial plan was to head to Gisenyi in the northwestern corner of Rwanda and be on vacation for a few days, but due to an ATM debacle in which money was deducted from my account, but not given to me, I was relatively money-less so to speak. Finally we got paid for July and I was able to enjoy some good meals in Kigali before heading to Kamonyi to help out with the next health group’s pre-service training (or PST). Kate and I ate out at a place called The Manor, which felt to both of us very much like we were in Vegas in the middle of Rwanda. Granted, I’m sure if I were in Vegas I would probably laugh at the comparison. But this place had at least three stories, an endless swimming pool with a live band playing the lulling tones of “sexual healing” and three different restaurants, Italian, Indian and another one that just didn’t seem as important as the first two. The food was amazing, and it was the spiciest curry I’ve ever had, but amazing just the same!

Otherwise, I hung out in Kigali and passed the time with internet at Bourbon coffee, resting, reading, and a few other things along the way. Saturday I headed to Kamonyi and was met by a feast put together by the health trainees. They made pineapple fried rice, curry, guacamole, French fries, a Mexican dish, fruit salad, egg scrambles, and some other things thrown in there too. It was amazing and a really awesome welcome for me to their training. I spent the week visiting the different language classes and offering my opinion on life in Rwanda, being a health volunteer, and what their service might look like in the two years to come. They are a great group and also really positive, which was a nice reminder to where I was when I first arrived in country and where I am today in my service, with one year left. Although I feel like I am in a very positive place, and continuing to move forward in this experience, it was really nice to be reminded of where I am coming from, and how much I have changed.

The group was really fun and I think they will be a great addition to our PC Rwanda team so to speak, or our community, or our family, depending on your desired level of sappiness.  I left PST the following Saturday at 6:30 AM to try to make it to Butare before umuganda, or the monthly day of service. The police stopped us in a random town about 20 minutes from Butare however, and we were forced to disembark to squeeze bus and do umuganda. It was kind of fun.  I met people from my own community who were also stopped and forced from their buses. We just did some hoeing for a couple hours and chatted about life in Rwanda. I have to say that it’s really cool that I can now say I’ve lived in Rwanda for over a year and this is in part, my home. It worked out kind of perfectly however, as I arrived in Butare at 12, right when the market and the restaurants were re-opening post-umuganda. So I filled my bag with produce, grabbed a burger, then headed back on down the road to home, where I hadn’t been in 2 ½ weeks.

Now I am back, and sort of back to work, as Monday, July 2^nd was an observed holiday the 1^st being independence day for Rwanda. The 4^th is also a holiday, liberation day. Independence day here is the day Rwanda gained independence from the colonialists and liberation day is the observed last day of the 1994 genocide. So, in other words, I have half the week off, which is actually much needed. I am exhausted from my wandering ways the last two weeks, and although it is a much appreciated part of my life, I don’t see much time for rest any time in my near future. But, this is the life I enthusiastically signed up for over two years ago when I first submitted my Peace Corps application. So somehow, I am cresting the Peace Corps hump and everything will be downhill from July 13^th, my one year mark in service, and one year left to go. Fourteen and a half months ago, I pondered this 27 month commitment and could not see the end anywhere. But now, I can’t believe where it all went and how from here on out, I only have less than a year before I have completed my Peace Corps service. How did that happen?

I guess much like everything in life (I can assume, as I’ve only had 24 years of it thus far) that I must now figure out what comes next, what comes after Peace Corps. I have a lot of ideas, dreams, visions, hopes, for the future in mind, but not exactly sure what will actually come to be. I would love to do seasonal employment in Antarctica. I would love to go to grad school. I would love to continue traveling the world. I would love to be home and spend some time maybe working for a nonprofit. I would love to go back and work in Glacier National Park. There are so many things that I would absolutely love to do, but just don’t have any definitive plans for the daunting FUTURE. Anyways, any ideas, suggestions, or insights would be much appreciated! Miss you all, and until next we meet… may the summer air be perfect for barbecuing and a life outdoors, and you all have a happy fourth of July!

The translation of grief...

            Around mid-night, already struggling in my attempts to fall asleep,  I heard my landlady unlock her door and enter the house. Surprised by the late hour, I lay in bed listening. As the hours continued into the night and on to the early morning my slumbering attempts were met with the sounds of voices, wood chopping and chairs being moved. Two AM into three AM and so on, I listened as people gathered outside our house around a camp fire talking. Curious and frustrated by my inability to sleep and to find sleep amidst their conversation, I tossed and turned questioning everything. Why were these people, Rwandans, whose lives generally seem to revolve around the amount of useable daylight that can be found each day, awake at two AM, having a bonfire?

            Her husband was sick for about a week. I heard him coughing at night through the thin door that separates my home and their living room. Reports came to me that they were traveling to the hospital 45 minutes away. Talking with Mama Diane, my landlady, we discussed his illness. Sick in the stomach, coughing, and headaches were some of the symptoms she mentioned before they left for the hospital. Before wishing her a safe journey, I complimented her Rwandan dress and her newest hairstyle. The next time I saw her was the day after her husband, the community “umusaza” or old man, passed away. Also the father of a co-worker of mine, we were informed in the morning meeting at the health center that “Papa Peace (Peace being my co-worker) died last night,” something I already knew or at least guessed, based on the campfire vigil held outside my house.

            As strange as it may sound, I like to think a have a pretty good ability to deal with loss and interact with others dealing with loss. I feel like I’ve learned what to say, how to approach loss with people and how to help them. Maybe these are false assertions about myself. But now I find myself attempting to tip-toe out of my house to avoid Mama Diane, to avoid confrontation of the situation. Uncomfortable with the complete lack of knowledge on how to help with this kind of loss and in the appropriate way. Although I really didn’t know the man, and unfortunately my first interaction with him was slightly creepy, I am not overly saddened by his loss, but I find myself sitting here with a familiar ache in my chest.

I sit helpless amongst some 15-20 Rwandans, maybe the 10^th batch of visitors of the day, sitting staring about the living room, showing support. Mama Diane is off in the bowels of the house, wandering outside, greeting other guests. We sit, they serve us Fanta, and we sit. Helplessly I wonder what this is supposed to mean, how this helps, what Mama Diane really needs. Public displays of emotion being relatively frowned upon in this culture, Mama Diane doesn’t cry, she doesn’t seem to show any emotion really. Her six daughters float around the house giving us Fanta, checking on the work in the kitchen, also seemingly emotionless, at least to our Americanized expectations of grief.

I am told the vigil, the guests, will continue for three days, then it will just be the family. Although, I wasn’t particularly close to any of these people, and just moved into this home a month ago, the thin door between our homes masks no sounds. It places me into the middle of their personal lives, feelings and reactions. Uncontrollably, I am involved in the intimacy of their grief, yet have no idea what that means, or what I am supposed to do with it. I feel as though I’m a part of it, but I’m not. Even if there was something I could do, I have no idea what it is, or how to do it.

            Years ago, Felice told me about her support group for parents who’ve lost children. She told me, how other members of the group were seemingly afraid of her when she entered. They looked at their pain of losing one child relative to her losing both her daughters as not equal. They seemed to view their pain as minimal relative to her loss. But Felice said something that has always stuck with me. It was something to the effect of grief being immeasurable. No one person’s grief is greater or less than another’s and we all grieve differently and incomparably. We never have the right to judge someone else’s grief or their grieving process.  

            My experience with grief and mourning is so seemingly diverse to me; between friends, boyfriends, parents, family, and Felice’s family, at one point a second to my own. I’ve experienced friends refusal to talk to me about our loss. I’ve watched people drowning their loss in a drug or booze induced haze. I’ve had friends who talked about it incessantly, about the person, about our memories. I’ve scrap-booked, made mixed CDs of our songs, played all our favorite movies over and over, and helped Felice in a foundation dedicated to the lives of my best friend and her sister. I have been screamed at, belittled, cried to, laughed with, and have done all of those things myself as well. But this experience is new.

To this day, the worst sound I have ever heard is that of Felice crying. The agony and pain of her sobs still resonate within me. I remember sitting on the stairs outside her bedroom, for close to an hour, listening to this sound, a sound so complete of pain, of anguish, that I couldn’t breathe. This sound has stuck with me all this time, and still cripples me to hear it. On the Balinese beach with her and two of my best friends, they held her as she cried into the Indian Ocean, the final resting place of her girls. Feeling uncontrollably and physically ill from this experience, I walked away and sat wrapped within myself, toes digging into the sand, waiting for the pain to stop, waiting for their crying to subside. 

I watch my parents, still brought to tears at times, over the loss of their parents, and their friends, and it wakes a sadness in me as well as a stronger love of them and who they are and continue to become. I have laughed hysterically with my friends over memories of Lindsey. We’ve cried hysterically, we’ve drunken ourselves into feelinglessness.  I’ve even gone so far as to tattoo myself over loss. For a while, loss was all-encompassing in my life, and has contributed immensely in fostering the person I am today. For years I would give myself panic attacks thinking about losing more people. What would I possibly do if I lost my brother, my parents, my friends? I would find myself on a road trip, heading home alone in my car, walking across campus, hyperventilating thinking about the inevitability of loss. Sometimes these “episodes” were so bad I had to stop my car, or sit down before I could function again. Every now and then it still hits me. There is never a day that I don’t miss all the people I love, yet have lost. I wonder what they’d think of me today, what they would do if they were a part of each adventure I take.

Unfortunately, I am becoming accustomed to death and the processes that stem from it, and I think somewhat unfairly at the age of 24. I know what it looks like in so many of its forms. Yet, I find myself lost in translation. As I sit in the living room of my landlady amongst a large group of people, yet feeling so very alone, clueless as to what we are doing, and why we are doing it. I think about what it was like after the plane crash. I remember sitting at Felice’s house, waiting, watching the news, trying to listen, experiencing the emotion of others. Unbelieving, I was hopeful at first, then I was stunned, then I was so emotionally exhausted I barely functioned. I don’t remember throngs of people coming and going in those first few days. Months later however, before the memorial service, I remember a house full of people, vaguely, as I had locked myself in Linds’ room working on projects, only emerging to make a cocktail, maybe steal food, or go to the bathroom.

But in that gathering, people were lively, they were emotional. They told stories of the girls and of their father. They laughed, they cried, they drank themselves into the necessary stupor. I remember bodies of people, but not who they were, they shuffled through the house beneath my Lindsey sanctuary. So I sit here in this room, in Rwanda, watching people from every facet of the community, leaders, farmers, school-teachers and otherwise come and go. The diversity and number attributes, in my eyes, to his importance and value in the community. We sit in the living room of the deceased and I wonder, is this is how Mama Diane needs/wants to grieve. Her face, her interactions, convey nothing, she is seemingly emotionless, yet noticeably exhausted.

When I get up to leave, still unsure if it’s acceptable protocol, I thank her and tell her the typical “ihangane” or be patient. She glances at me and says “Munezero, hari ibibazo”, there are problems. I ask how I can help as this is what I know how to do, and she smiles slightly, I assume at the absurdity of the question. She says to come sing tomorrow, to help hold vigil, and to be here. Tossed into their grief, an unrelenting fly listening on the wall, through the door, I listen helplessly, yet with good-intentions of acclimating, of being a part of this part of their culture. I feel lost though… this is not how I have experienced grief. The protocols, the expressions, the actions, it’s all something I can’t quite imagine, comprehend, wrap my head around in such a short period of time, in such a small space. I guess this is a cross cultural experience however, but so far, maybe, this has been one of the most difficult, or feelingly difficult, to wrap myself around, and knowledgeably embrace.

Tomorrow comes after another sleepless night listening to the voices around the campfire, which really makes me want to crack a beer and tell stories for hours, but of course I must reign in my “American-ness” in this regard. I must not sit with the drunken men. I must be a good conservative Rwandan woman. Exiting my house on “tomorrow’s” morning, I am met with rows of benches already filled with people waiting for the burial ceremony to start. Sneaking off to work for a few hours, I watch as people continue past my health center, dressed in their best, assembling on these benches. A quiet melancholy sound echoes down the hillside towards me for at least an hour before I return. Once the ceremony begins we are told to stand and directed to walk through the house where the family, his wife and eight daughters, dressed all in white, wait around the casket singing. We walk past them, some of the girls wearing dark sunglasses even though they are inside. The women’s voices catch as people pass the casket, pressing their hands against it for one last goodbye. A small piece of glass over his face is built into the casket, and I see his face turned to the side, much more like he was sleeping than the standard on the back, hands crossed in front posture we often utilize.

They carry the casket outside, stories are told, songs are sung, and every now and then, a few rain drops fall onto the quiet crowd. The crowds rise again following the casket to the side of the house, where the umusaza is buried, with a layer of cement poured above his body. A cross is placed at one end, a large picture of him leaning against it, with bouquets of flowers for a backdrop. Fanta and sorghum beer is served to the waiting crowd, a few more songs are sung, then the crowds disperse. After, Mama Diane asks me if this is my first funeral in Rwanda, as her grandson squeals in terror next to her at the sight of me. To this, she laughs and I smile, and I leave her to her family.

Mama wanjye yaje gusura murwanda...

It has been about two months since my last posting… sorry, but April was not that exciting of a month all in all… I moved to a temporary house, one we PCVs like to refer to as a ‘muzungu’ house, flush toilet and all. One problem was, however, that the bed was full of fleas and therefore as I felt their little flea-like bodies crawling all over me when I tried to sleep, I couldn’t sleep. Needless to say most of April I slept really poorly and ended up kind of sick. Thus is a summary of my life during April.

On to May! This month has been very full of important dates and whatnot. I arrived in Rwanda May 5^th of last year. I turned 24! Mother’s day of course and my mom arrived here in Rwanda on the evening of May 10^th. It feels like forever ago, but I can’t believe May is also already over! I forced my mom awake the next morning to leave for Akagera National Park at 5 AM. It was really interesting to see the eastern part of Rwanda. Because it was the end of the rainy season everything was so green, which was surprising, as the east is supposed to be hot and dry, so I’ve been told. Anyways, the park was really beautiful. We saw lots of really amazing birds, gazelles, zebras, giraffes, these deer-like creatures and even warthogs. It was such an adventure. Once the rain finally stopped, we were even able to pop open the safari roof and stand up “outside” as we traveled through the park. It was a lot of fun, but was cut short due to some road problems and therefore I missed getting to see the hippos. Disappointing, but calls for another adventure in the future, so that’s ok!

The next day I took my as of yet un-jet-lagged mother to Gisozi genocide memorial. It was really interesting for me to walk through here again. A year in Rwanda, and the passing of April, national mourning month, brought a lot to mind, but going through the museum again, being reminded of this period in Rwandan history, what the genocide consisted of, was really valuable. I’ve had lots of talks with other PCVs of the importance of the Rwandan population to compartmentalize their feelings and experiences during the 1994 genocide, but I hadn’t realized how much I had been unintentionally compartmentalizing as well. Peace Corps refers to Rwanda as a post-conflict country. There are lots of ways that the “conflict” is evident in the culture of Rwanda today, but I didn’t really understand the implications of that relative to being a PCV until, after a year of service, I went back to the memorial and truly reminded myself. It was really rewarding and enlightening as well.

Sunday, we traveled to Kamonyi to visit my host family. They were so excited to meet my mother, and it was nice to share my “world” here with my mother, with someone from back home. Only one of my sisters, and my youngest brother were missing. But, we broke bread, so to speak and they asked each other questions. My brain was in overdrive as I was playing the role of translator, or at least attempting to. My host parents even surprised my mom with a gift, a wooden carved “agaseke” basket. It was so nice to share these people, and to show my mom where I started out a year ago. Being able to really share this experience with someone was so empowering to me as well. Although I’m not sure how important this part was to mom (although I think it was very) I couldn’t have imagined a better mother’s day.

Monday, we awoke in Butare to a ham and cheese croissant breakfast, and me somehow being 24! I mean seriously, how did that happen? Well, two Rwandan birthdays down and one to go. Time is going so quickly! I took mom to the Butare market this day where we loaded up on fruits and veggies to take back to my site. Mangoes, pineapple, passion fruit, papaya, green beans, cucumber, and others all freshly picked. Then we began the long-ish journey back to my home. An express bus, a squeeze bus and two moto-taxis-piled-high later, we arrived at my house and in my home. The first day we took a walk into my village to guhaha or grocery shop. Everyone we passed would call out “Munezero (my Rwandan name) is this your mom?” to which squealing and cheerful yelling would follow my affirmation. People would cheer and welcome her every step we practically went. She was a town celebrity already. Even when I went out without her to my morning work meeting or other places, people would quiz me, “where is your mom?” or “when will you bring her to see us?”

We spent a week in my community. We made fresh fruit salads, pots of vegetable soup, even a birthday cake with real frosting. She also ate at least one avocado every single day. We visited the tea factory where the director himself took us on a tour to see how Rwandan tea is made. Everywhere we went people welcomed her and it made me so proud and happy to be a part of this community. The second Saturday we traveled to Nyamagabe town, an hour away, and attempted to go to a wedding, which turned out not to be a wedding and actually just a church service. Apparently a surprise day of service screwed up the wedding schedule or some such thing. I’m sure I’ll be paying for dragging her to a church service for quite some time. But it was only an hour and a half, short for Rwanda!

After the failed church outing, we traveled to Murambi Genocide Memorial. An estimated 50,000 Rwandans were slaughtered at Murambi, an unfinished secondary school at the time. Tutsis from all over the area were consolidated here as Hutus were evacuated so that when the killing started they would not get confused with fleeing Tutsis. There are about 18,000 people buried in mass graves here, and another 2,000 who have been preserved in lime and are on display on beds in the classrooms of the school. About a year ago, I travelled here during training, and it was so immensely overwhelming. I did not enter the classrooms this time, rather I walked along the outside as my mom did. I still can see the ghostly faces frozen in terror or contorted into horrible, impossible positions which were the last one the body assumed before being dug out of a mass grave, and preserved. Men, women and children, hundreds to thousands, all preserved to share the horror of the genocide with us. No, I didn’t need to go through there again. This time however, the museum was finished, so we were able to learn more about the history of this particular place. This was really helpful for context, but it definitely didn’t make it easier.

Although this is one of the hardest things I have ever seen, if you come to Rwanda, I think it is immensely important to experience. I somewhat tried to talk my mom out of it, largely because I didn’t want to go there again. But it’s so easy for us in the states not to understand something like genocide, or to understand the word, but not really what it means. That does not critique the intelligence of anyone I know, but rather, just the incomprehensibility of genocide until it is witnessed, and often even after. I still cannot imagine, but I’ve seen these things, and can see how this continues to impact a culture. So, I really don’t think this is something that should be skipped over by tourists to Rwanda. It is too important a piece. Anyways, off my soap box now…

So the next day, I dragged my mom to the Pentacostal church service. They have a tradition here for visitors to stand and introduce themselves to the congregation. So we stood, and as soon as I said “uyu are mama wanjye” or “this is my mom” the entire church broke into cheers and applause. This was followed by a special welcome to my mom by everyone in the church. We stayed for the singing and dancing but not the sermon, and it was so much fun. My mom even admitted why I would equate the whole experience to the church scene in “The Blues Brothers.”

The next day we visited the forest, the road blocked by some 20+ terrifying baboons. They moved, but I was sure for a while they were plotting ambush amid their leafy cover. We visited the women’s cooperative and were chased through my favorite village by the sweetest children. We also hiked to the traditional houses that were built on the edge of the forest, which overlook the tea fields, the forest, and even back onto the villages of my community. It was a beautiful day, which was followed the next day by a trip to visit my GLOW club at the local secondary school.

The girls sang and danced and asked my mom questions. It was a really nice ending to her week in my community. The next day we headed back to Butare and went to the market and a few cooperatives to do some souvenir shopping, had a great dinner and even some ice cream. The following Thursday we headed back to Kigali, and to the airport in the evening for her to fly out. It was such an amazing visit, and everything went better than I imagined it would. She was such a trooper, although she did complain about the squat toilet a bit much! Hahaha.

It was so nice to be back with a piece of home, and a piece of me. I have so much respect and admiration for my mom, and hearing her perspective on the life I’m living, and on Rwanda was very enlightening and really reminded me of the positive person I try to be, and why I am here. Her and her visit reminded me of all the good things about this experience and about this culture and place. I honestly feel as if a lot of pressure has been lifted, and I’m more ready for accomplishing my person goals in this service. So, in other words, I really think her visit was a major success!

In other news… May is fast reaching its end and June brings my mid-service conference. We have three trainings/conferences we “must” attend during our service; In service training (IST) after three months at site, Mid Service Conference (MSC) around a year at site, and Close of Service Conference (COS) three months before we go home. MSC hypothetically marks the hump so to speak, everything being “downhill” thereafter. We will see, but I can for sure say time is going fast, and I’m sure it will continue to speed along… probably faster.

It’s nice to be  back at work though. I have several projects in the works still, animal husbandry to address malnutrition, gender based violence education, girls empowerment. As they reach a more noticeable and measurable sort of fruition I will continue to share those stories with all of you! Thank you all for the birthday wishes, cards, and packages… I can guarantee they will thoroughly be enjoyed! Miss you all so much, and more to come sooner than the last time! Until we meet again, may the sun shine warm upon your face!

Peace Corps service as prophesized in the 1800s

“It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity… we had everything before us…”

I’m pretty sure that Charles Dickens had Peace Corps service in mind, and maybe even PC service in Rwanda specifically when he wrote those lines in A Tale of Two Cities. So much of this roller coaster, this tragic romance novel with a happy ending, this attempt at understanding bipolar disorder, this unstable stock-market representation graph, this ultimately positive experience, is immensely up and down. It’s probably not for the faint of heart. This is not to say (disclaimer) that I am unhappy or struggling. Surprisingly, currently I am overwhelmingly happy and more confident than ever in having made this decision for my life. Weird how that happens right?

So, two weeks have gone by since last we met via my words and your interest in reading them, and life has continued non-stop. I went to yet another wedding, but this was the first one in which I was really friends with the bride or groom. All of the other weddings have been of co-workers, but the bride in this wedding is essentially my older Rwandan sister. So we awoke early on Saturday, March 17th and arrived at the wedding site in Kamonyi. Arms linked with my sisters, we traveled atop a hill overlooking what was once my Rwandan home and were greeted amidst the trees to brightly decorated pink and blue tents that were to be the place of the traditional wedding ceremony. In case you remember back to a posting, WAY BACK, when I was still in training about destroying stumps with garden hoes… this would be the same place.

Nine AM turned into 11 AM, with a bustle and hectic feel as the bride arrived from the civil ceremony (in front of local authorities) and attempted to change into outfit number two for the day. Her bridesmaids also had multiple outfits, as did her ladies in waiting. Finally they approached the tents, and the groom, who had just as large of entourage, greeted her. This was preceded by a seemingly endless amount of speeches by the father of the groom, and one of the adopted “father’s” of the bride. (Jenn’s biological father was killed in the 1994 Genocide). As we waited, it was really nice to see the faces of many an old friend, and again (if I have not mentioned this enough before) be able to communicate with them, almost fluently.

Food was distributed and speeches were made, although I can’t say that I truly paid too much attention as I was very much distracted by the bride in her neon pink dress with blue polka-dotted lace streaming from her hair and wrapped around the bottom of the dress like a mermaid tail. This ceremony was followed by another long wardrobe change as Jenn switched into the traditional white gown. Then we piled into little buses and headed to Kigali for the church ceremony. Fortunately this ceremony was particularly brief, as I have been in ones that have gone on for hours, and at this point, we were closing in on hour number eight. It was super hot in Kigali as well, which never seems to go away.

After the church ceremony, there was the reception. I finally received my first piece of wedding cake in Rwanda, and it was AMAZING! Whew… ten months without cake! Haha. We were also serenaded by a band singing, “We wish you a happy family” to the tune of “Happy Birthday.” Then we walked to the post-reception party at the new husband and wife’s house. Thankfully they fed us again here! People often ask me, when I get married, if I will have a Rwandan wedding. I have many qualms with this personally due to my beliefs and otherwise, but largely, I have no desire to sit through my own wedding if it’s 13 hours, and I’m pretty sure that many other people would feel the same way. I was honored (as a “member” of the family) with being the “holder of the gourd.” This is the first thing that enters the house of the new couple as a symbol of their future. It was really quite an honor, and, in spite of it being my longest wedding to date, it was also my favorite.

We made it back to my host-family’s home just before midnight. I was reminded around 9 PM of the fact it was Saint Patrick’s Day, and I have to say I was very un-Irish in not having a single drop of alcohol, but I did wear green, and it was a great celebration none-the-less. Sitting through church the next day kind of felt like I had spent my St. Paddy’s Day similar to those of previous years, but, nothing a little nap couldn’t cure.

The 18th, I headed into Kigali to help out with Operation Smile, a US organization that does surgery (for free) to fix cleft palates. They had asked Peace Corps if they could provide some volunteers to help out with entertaining and monitoring patients. So, I did that for a couple days. It was really interesting to be able to talk to people from all over Rwanda. There were a lot of mothers and their children, and a few men. We drew with chalk and crayons, and chatted and served food in the evening. Whether I was working with a really great crew of PCVs, or things were just easier those two days I was there, I’m not sure, as there seemed to be a lot of communication, logistical and comprehension problems throughout the entire ten days or so, between Operation Smile, PCVs and Rwandan counterparts. I a lot of times we weren’t quite sure what we were supposed to be doing. But, nonetheless, the experience was immensely rewarding.

Often it feels as if my service is relatively thankless. I will do a favor for a co-worker or friend, which seems to go unnoticed or followed by an observation which I can only assume is unintentionally insulting. “You are very big today Megan,” or “You are not smart today.” For some reason when complimenting how someone is dressed it is translated into “dressing smartly” so when you are not dressed well or you have a problem (shoes unwashed, too short of sleeves, etc.) it becomes, “you are not smart today.” I am aware that this is largely a cultural difference, and my perceptions of politeness and conscientiousness that do not translate well in this culture, but it is a struggle. This is summarized, I feel in the lack of the word “please” in the Kinyarwanda. Often I am told I must do something, give something, be something, without so much as asking or a “please” extended my way. I realize this has everything to do with my expectations, but again, it’s a struggle. So, being at Operation Smile and seeing tangible and immediate results (yes surgery, but also, the happiness from the people, who are obviously in recovery pain, to just sit and interact with you) was a really nice mentally clarifying experience.

Finally after a meetings with PC staff, I arrived back at my site after seven days of absence. I was immediately confronted by my struggling housing situation, which wiped me out almost instantly, that and all the travel. Unfortunately and fortunately I left again the next day for a weekend of Peace Corps stuff and some good volunteer time. The health 2 group has finished their two year stint as PCVs, which is awesome and sad, because they are such a great group of people. So, we had one last hurrah, so to speak. Friday, I helped Sally and Ryan (two H2 PCVs) along with some others, put the finishing touches on the world map they painted on a wall of a community library that Ryan helped build in the community. It turned out amazingly! Afterwards we went out for akabenz, pork that you order by the kilo, and a couple brews.

Saturday was spent in meetings and eating muzungu food. We had a multi-region meeting to discuss a ton of stuff, amongst a group of around maybe 25 PCVs. Three hours later, we adjourned the meeting, all a little bit more ready to face Genocide Memorial Week, plan future camps GLOW and BE, and with understanding of Peace Corps committees and functions. Unfortunately and fortunately it was too late to catch a bus back home. I was dreaming of my bed, my room, my house back at site, but I did have lots of fun at yet another Pork Place filled with new PCV friends, discussions, and later, dancing. I can’t say it wasn’t amazing to be back home on Sunday, although I need to clean my room, and it’s unclear whether this particular house will continue being my home, but tuzareba, we will see.

Life really is quite good and my world is moving forward, changing, not changing, but the world turns on, and me with it. Projects are moving forward alarmingly fast, yet seemingly slow. Does this represent the bi-polarness I seem to be feeling? Updates on my PC life include, the upcoming Genocide Mourning Week April 7th through the 13th, and the entire month of April is Genocide Memorial Month. My mother begins her African adventure on May 9th! Followed by my mid-service conference (PCVs have this after/around a year in service) in June. Ups and downs and greats and stress filled moments, but until we meet again, may the rains fall soft upon your fields (it is rainy season after all!) Miss you all!

Pictures: 1. The ladies in waiting at the wedding. My host sister, Aline, is the second one from the left. 2. The bride, groom, and me sandwiched between my host parents. 3.The bride and her bridesmaids (I love the maid of honor's hat!) 4.Aline, a random grandmother, me and Solange, a friend from Kamonyi. 5.Us doing a Jersey Shore fist pump in front of Sally and Ryan's world map.